How To Talk To a Girl You Like
Posted: Tuesday, August 11, 2009
by Alisa Miller
http://alisa-miller.com
I don't usually give prescriptive advice on opening conversational gambits with girls, mostly because, anything prescriptive is also self-limiting and the real nature of a relationship requires that you actually project a little more than a pre-scripted chat-up line. However, I think we also need to accept that some guys are intimidated by the sudden pressure to approach a girl and having recourse to something formulaic may indeed help bolster their confidence and lead to a real relationship.
1. If I said you had a beautiful body, would you hold it against me?
2. I'm not looking for a relationship, I'm looking for an experience.
3. Do you have a map? Because I keep getting lost in your eyes.
4. What does it feel like to be the most beautiful girl in this room?
5. Heaven must be a lonely place now without you.
These are a first approach to a total stranger you need to make that connection with. In company however, when you have spent more than a few minutes with a girl you'd like to know and you need to take the conversation further they will work against you more than for you. For those moments you need to get her to open up and talk about herself. Many a guy make the mistake of not listening here because they are nervous and they need to externalize that nervousness through talking. Don't! If you can get the girl to talk and you to listen you are onto a winner.
So ask about:
1. Where she is from
2. Which parts of town she likes best
3. Great films she has seen recently and why she liked them
4. How she met the friends she is with now
When the conversation flows a connection has been made and there you can impress with what you say and how you behave. Watch her body language, mirror it and make sure that you nod when you should and smile on cue. Make eye contact and, whatever you do, never, ever appear desperate. This will never work with a girl.
Remember that girls don't object to a chat-up line. Delivered in the right way it can be charming at best and a great ice-breaker at the worst. We do really object however to the belief that a chat-up line is all that's needed for us to fall into your arms, so be ready to deliver your chat up line with aplomb and a sense of self-deprecation and then follow it up with the confidence that we are really interesting and that you are interested in what we have to say.
While this may not be the recipe that will get you to home base every time, it will give you enough to help you meet and get to know better those girls which catch your eye.
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Top-level comments on this article: (1 total)I used to be the shy type , no clue what to say ..But I overcame that about a year ago . Although my worst pick up line ever was when I was 18 , I once saw a beautiful girl at a bar , I was talking to her , and I told her , wait right here , I will be back in 10 minutes to take you home ..She waited ..Todd, thank you for this! It actually made me smile and it also perfectly highlights the examples I was talking about in the article!
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