How To Talk To a Girl Online
Posted: Thursday, September 17, 2009
by Alisa Miller
http://alisa-miller.com
When it comes to talking to a girl online, on the face of it at least, things should be easier. After all you can do all your homework and get to find out some details just by looking at her profile and reading about her hobbies and interests. No need to look like a stalker or the kind of guy who gets thrown out of the Seers department stores' lingerie section.
So with that part over and done with it should be ever so easy - except of course, it isn't. That's why I am writing this post.
Online etiquette demands that when you approach a girl you have never spoken to before you should observe the social contract just like if you were offline.
1. Do not be overtly familiar. Irrespective of what you think you know about her you still do not know her.
2. Do not talk to her like she's your buddy. Girls are still girls. We need to be talked to like we are girls, not honorary guys.
3. Do not introduce the question of sex in the third sentence. Obvious as this may be, the number of guys who will start off with, 'Hi, how are you? Do you like sex?' is so large that it obviously still needs to be said.
4. Do not ask if they are single when they have stated in their profile that their status is otherwise. If they are looking for a guy they will state that.
5. Do not beg for nude pics, cybersex or personal contact details. It is demeaning and it instantly discredits you in the eyes of the girl.
6. Do not use explicit or profane language. You are only underselling yourself if you do.
7. Do not be arrogant or abusive. Girls find both these attitudes a total turn-off.
8. Do not brag about past girlfriends. This is also a total turn-off, plus it shows that you are insensitive.
9. Do not talk about yourself unless you are asked. Remember you initiated the conversation. This means that you need to at least show a modicum of interest in the person you are talking to.
10. Do not overstay your welcome. A first contact, even online, is just that. A first contact. Do not abuse it by being so persistent that the girl begins to feel uncomfortable about you.
The thing with the online world is that it sometimes makes us forget that it is exactly like the offline world but with added capabilities. The moment we remember this detail we are in a better position to avail ourselves of the opportunities that a 24/7 online world gives us.
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Top-level comments on this article: (4 total)As always, great advice Alisa! It always amazes me how many men feel comfortable enough to break some of these tips! Kind of disgracing! Thanks for sharing!Laura indeed and when it happens I think it is unacceptable. Thank you for your comment.
Good advice! I am sure those respectable guys out there will appreciate this sound wisdom.
I actually find the above so right, it is unbelievable. Manners do truly make the man, the rule for this still applies online!
I like this, i think it will work perfectly
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